Conquer Life and Break Down Your Fears

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A man who conquers HIMSELF is greater than one who conquers a thousand in battle.
-Unknown

Life is full of obstacles, whether they’re financial, mental, physical or spiritual.It is a rare person who lives without fear of one kind or another. You may fear heights, or spiders, or new situations, or rejection–whatever your fears may be, you can either let those fears form boundaries beyond which you can’t move or grow, or you can face them head-on and allow them to become opportunities to move into new places in your life. The choice is truly yours.

Fear is not always a bad thing. There are obviously some things about which we should be afraid and in which we should exercise appropriate caution. But if our fears control us, or prevent us from taking certain risks, we allow those fears to define us, to limit us only to courses of action that we deem sufficiently safe, and as a result, many of us never achieve our potential–or we cheat ourselves out of the richness that life could otherwise hold for us.

The key is to focus on what you can control.

Focus on the Positives.

1.  Realize that everyone is afraid of something.
2.  You don’t have to overcome your fear all at once.
3. Approach your fears as opportunities for growth.
4. Be careful how you talk to yourself about what you fear.
5. Failure isn’t necessarily the end of the world.

*What are the potential benefits of overcoming that fear?
*How might your life be different if you weren’t afraid of it?
*What would you be free to do that you aren’t free to do now because of your fear?
*What do you have to lose by giving up that fear?

If you can objectively appraise the advantages to moving past your fear, you may come to see your fear as an opportunity to grow.  The adage, “nothing ventured, nothing gained,” and all of its various permutations (e.g., “no guts, no glory”) are based on the time-tested principle that we can’t grow if we don’t allow ourselves to be stretched.  You know this is true in the physical realm–a muscle that isn’t regularly used eventually atrophies and becomes useless–and it is no less true in other areas of our lives.

Try this:  write down something you are afraid of, some fear you want to overcome, and make a list of three small steps you think you CAN make to begin facing up to your fear.  Choose one and do it tomorrow.

Some of my best experiences were born out of failure and when I thought my life was over. Instead of letting other people’s problems get the best of me, I’ve learned to look at the bright side. Granted you might not see the bright side till after the dust settles, but don’t give up hope.

In almost every situation in life there’s a silver lining, even in the last recession. Whatever life throws at you, whether it’s money problems, relationship failures or career issues, they can all be successfully handled if you apply these tips.

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