This morning I was thinking of all the layers of my life that have gotten me to this point. We all have many layers to ourselves. We are whole, we are divine and infinite. It's about maturing, discovering what the layer mean, how to use and gather the wisdom and never having any regrets.
When Was Your Last Ah Ha Moment? - This past week I had a breakthrough on patience. For me, patience is like an onion. There are layers and layers that need to be peeled back one at a time.The core of an onion is sweeter than the outer layers and I find with my life it does get sweeter as I peel back my layers of patience.
We've built layer after layer since childhood. Some things we may love, others we may like to share with, and some we're waiting to obtain more wisdom. However it goes we don't want to live life and look back, thinking I should have, I could have, I would have. Right?
So many people approach me with the attitude of defeat or its too late. What I find is most individuals don't want to put in the work to achieve what's inside of them. Those are the first ones to criticize others, have an opinion, but no real resources to back up their claims. Those are the individuals we, cannot, and will not worry about in life. Moving on...
Stretching and building is what life is all about. Aspiring to fulfill that burning that desire in your heart is where the layers begin to make since. It's important to peel back the layers and rely on the knowledge you've gathered along the way. Hence, Life's Layers...
This is what we're discussing this morning. Life without regrets:
10 CHOICES YOU WILL REGRET IN 10 YEARS
“If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.
Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:
01. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
02. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
03. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
04. Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.
05. Avoiding change and growth. – If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. Read The Power of Habit.
06. Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
07. Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
08. Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle.
09. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t. Read The Last Lecture.
10. Being lazy and wishy-washy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life – take control. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.
We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially, we are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another, the past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.-Anais Nin
"A thousand times we die in one life. We crumble, break and tear apart until the layers of illusion are burned away and all that is left, is the truth of who and what we really are." -Teal Scott-
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Recipe of the day
- 8 oz cream cheese (room temp.)
- 3 tbsp butter (room temp.)
- 1/2 tsp vanilla
- 2 1/2 cups powder sugar
- Add cream cheese and butter to stand mixer and mix until full combined.
- Turn mixer off and add powder sugar and vanilla.
- Turn mixer on slow and combine all ingredients for about 30 seconds. Increase speed to medium-high and mix for 3-5 minutes, or until you reach desired consistency.
- Pair with the Perfect Classic Pancake and your choice of fresh fruit for Fruit Pizza's.
- 140g plain flour
- 200ml whole milk
- 2 eggs
- 25g unsalted butter, melted, plus a little extra for greasing
- Sift the flour with a pinch of salt into a medium-size bowl and make a well in the middle. Mix the milk and 100ml of water together. Break the eggs into the well and start whisking slowly. Add the milk and water in a steady stream, whisking constantly and gradually incorporating the flour as you do so.
- Whisk until the batter is smooth and all the flour has been incorporated. Set the batter aside to rest for 30 mins, then whisk the melted butter into the batter.
- Heat the pan over a medium heat. Very lightly grease the pan with melted butter. Using a ladle, pour roughly 2 tbsp of batter into the pan and swirl it around so the bottom of the pan is evenly coated. You want to use just enough batter to make a delicate, lacy pancake. Cook the pancake for about 45 secs on one side until golden and then using a palette knife or fish slice, flip the pancake over and cook the other side for about 30 secs until it freckles.
- Slide the pancake out of the pan and either serve immediately or stack on a plate with baking parchment in between. Continue until all the batter is used up.